That statement still makes me shudder and quiver with anger and regret.
This time last year, I was in a very dark place when I penned my thoughts surrounding Infertility Awareness Week. I was six months out from my last failed donor IVF cycle- THE last cycle I would ever embark on.
I wondered if I could ever capture happiness again.
Looking back, I am still mired in regret. Let’s be honest here… when you are in the muck of infertility’s grip it’s very hard to see forward into the future or assess the past. It’s hard enough to live in the present. The difference for me between this year and last year is time. Time and space to think about the actions I’ve taken on my own infertility journey with a fresh perspective.
But I tried.
My body failed me… not on purpose but rather by nature.
I am not the happy-ending to the fairytale.
But it’s not all bad.
Ironically, I now consider myself a self-taught expert on the subject of fertility, or lack of it. Because the journey did not end in the way I imagined, I share my knowledge with anyone that will listen. I bust the myths around fertility every day to at least save another from walking a similar path. There is no sugar-coating the truth.
This is the only positive way I’ve found to channel the emotions I still have, and always will carry with me.
Fertility is NOT forever.
But we can make a difference in understanding and acknowledging it.
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National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW) is April 24th through April 30th: Take Charge.
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Myth busted!This is a statement that makes me crazy too!Thanks for shedding light on it. Now "following" and I can't wait to read more…http://mrthompsonandme.blogspot.com
Thanks for sharing your painful story. You are doing other women a great favor by telling your story.Congratulations on your adoption. I know from experience that it can also be a tough road, but it is one that needs to be talked about more. God bless you for your courage to share.
An excellent contribution to NIAW.
Here, here. Thank you for this. Thinking of you this NIAW.
A powerful, fiery post. Thank you for telling it like it is!
Great post! I hate the "you have time" myth too. Ugh, super annoying to hear that! http://infertilenanny.blogspot.com/2011/04/bustamyth.html
Love your post!http://ldsinfertility.blogspot.com/
I am on the ugly side too, in the small percentage of those who go through IF and don't become parents one way or another.Great post.
All the fertility stereotypes need to be packaged up and burned.