Off the hook

Don’t stuff your face…
Face your stuff.

When I walked into W.eight Wat.chers in mid January I heard this phrase as part of the first meeting, and it was something that stunned me. Trust me when I tell you, it’s hard to be stunned at WW meetings.
How profound is that simple statement?

For those of us who have ever had an eating problem (or addiction of any sort), this is the root of it really. Emotions make us do whacked-out things.

Over the years, I have taken an introspective approach to my addiction of choice… food. I know why I am overweight. I know what it takes to lose weight. I just choose to do it or not do it.

The last five years had taken a toll on me physically. I was down on myself…. lower than the lowest I’ve ever been.

FAILURE is my trigger. FAILURE makes me sad, and worse… it makes me eat. Food won’t judge me like people judge me. Yes, it’s the oldest excuse in the book, but it is what makes me tick.

Sure, I wanted to change… but every pregnancy loss, every failed attempt at pregnancy, every job change and shift, illness, EVERY TIME I ran into a roadblock… my body revolted against me. I morphed into my own personal speed bump.

And anyone who has ever been in this dark place knows that it’s so goddamn hard to pick yourself up. Sometimes we rely on others to lift us up when we can’t. In the end, the buck stops with us. The reality is just as the phrase my Dad has always lived by…

“Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and get goin’!

Over the holidays I had an epiphany of sorts. Even IF I achieved all I wanted I would still be unhealthy in body, mind, and spirit. Let me tell you, hitting 40 was a major wake up call. I had pains I never had before. I felt slower. Things were just different.

I started to think about THE REST OF MY LIFE.

Yeah, heavy stuff.

I made pact with myself that day in January.
1. I will attempt to lead a healthier lifestyle.
2. I won’t berate myself for making mistakes along the way.
3. I will nurture ME.

So, how’s it been going? Even with the donor disappointment, and my work life on the verge of collapse I stuck to my pact. I feel the emotions, but I am not letting them control me. For the first time in my life.

I am treating myself well. I’m still doing WW, and happy to say as of yesterday, I’ve lost 30 pounds (still MANY to go.. don’t get too excited).
I am walking again.
I started reading again (a pastime I gave up, until I realized how much it soothed me).
I ate an entire cheese steak last week and felt no regret (hence, did not fall off the WW “wagon”).
I bought a pair of jeans in a size I have not worn in 10 years.
I made an appointment for a facial.
I now listen to music when I feel my blood pressure rising.
I let myself off the hook for my past.

And it feels good.

6 thoughts on “Off the hook

  1. Good for you. You have made some great progress and just have to keep making that decision every day to be healthy and to take care of yourself and your mental health. You should be proud of it.–MM

  2. Great job on the weight loss! Especially for being able to hang in there when the going gets tough. I have joined WW 2ce in the past 2 years, and I guess I just don’t feel connected or something. But your story is so inspiring, and I really want to lose weight before my next cycle, so maybe I’ll give it another go. Thanks for the post!

  3. Congrats on the 30 pounds! :)This post couldn’t have come at a better time for me…I’m going tomorrow to rejoin WW after a LONG absence. I’m tired of eating away my pain. Plus, the 12 pounds of “Oh, woe is me” weight I’ve added to my already fat butt the last three weeks is a great motivator.It’s hard to want to love your body, after it gives up on you…I’m proud of you.

  4. wow, this is very inspiring. So inspiring I shall rejoin WW again once this whole cycle nightmare is over. Food has been my addiction my whole life. I hope to hear more of your ideas and victories. Thank you and congratulations on the weight loss. 30 pounds is a lot of weight to lose no matter what your goal is. EB

  5. After my last pregnancy loss (the 4th one in a row) I joined WW, started accupuncture and found a therapist who specialized in pregnancy loss and fertility issues and boy did it help a lot. I tip my hat to you for finding things to nourish your innermost self. It really does help when you’ve been on a long dark road. Congrats!

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