Mommy wars

If you’ve been lurking around the blogosphere of mommy blogs, then you already know about the scandal that came of the original Today Show segment in January on “Cocktail Playdates” and the drama that ensued.

Well, if you missed it, Part II in the debate aired on the Today show yesterday this time with fellow mommy blogger Stefanie Wilder-Taylor facing Meredith Viera and Dr. Janet Taylor. See the video here>>> http://video.msn.com/v/us/msnbc.htm?g=0a81cac1-52ad-4d34-84d3-5a4dfcea6d43&f=05&fg=copy

I have to say, I am surprised how much talk this stimulated, and of the negative kind…. it does seem like this topic propelled an interesting conversation into Mom-on-Mom bashing. Which is sad, because we are all in this together, after all.

Stefanie was right, who needs another thing to feel guilty about as a Mom. I don’t see anything wrong with having a glass of wine in front of my son. I am showing him moderation. It’s not like we are swilling a bottle and hanging from the chandeliers….

Some of these people who are condemning women who have an occasional drink in the company of a child need to lighten up. There is a stop point, and no responsible Mom will deliberately get rip-roaring drunk. I said responsible, which in my heart of hearts I believe applies to most of us level-headed women.

I am okay with the idea of a designated parent…. many times hubby and I go to dinner with my son, and one of us will stop after ONE drink, because it’s the right thing to do.

And I do think there is a double-standard when it comes to Moms vs. Dads. How many Dads do you think flung back a few beers on Superbowl Sunday in the company of their kids? Where’s the hub-bub on that??

As a Mom, I try very hard to not make judgements about other Moms… because I certainly don’t want them judging me. Not that that hasn’t happened in the past… look at the subject of breastfeeding (there are plenty of Moms that pointed me in the direction of hell for bottle feeding my son). But I forgive them, and my son is just fine.

Let’s stop bitch-slapping each other and say what we all feel… parenting is hard. Harder still is appearing perfect all day/every day. Our kids want to look up to us, and having one drink is not making us lesser role-models to them. It makes us human.

Cheers

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